requires a change in mindset...
THE NEW year is well underway and
many single men and women are re-
evaluating what they need to do to find
love and attract the right person into
their life this year.
While many singletons have the best of
intentions, negative thought patterns,
self-defeating behaviours and other
mistakes hold too many people back
from finding the right person for them.
Here are a few ideas on how to find
and attract the right partner for you.
Be the person you want to attract
If you think all men and women are
bad, well guess what? You will always
attract bad men and women into your
life.
Your thoughts, your behaviour, hopes,
attitude and dreams send out a subtle
“vibration signal” to the world, and you
have to be in alignment with the
person you want to attract into your
life. Have you ever had a relationship
where you felt a “connection?” That
was because you were being the
magnet to the other person.
You always receive and attract what
you focus on. It’s science. Who you are
in the world is the most accurate
indicator of your focus. If you want a
certain kind of person, you have to be
in alignment with them, as like attracts
like.
Let go of any past issues and
relationships
We all have our share of emotional
issues and some of us have had some
pain in past relationships. But unless
we are first honest with ourselves and
take responsibility to correct our own
behaviours and patterns, we will
continue to have problematic
relationships.
Some people feel that the answer to
get over a bad relationship is to
immediately jump into a new
relationship – but these emotional
issues, bad habits and poor
communication practices tend to get
carried forward to all of our future
relationships, and then a regular
pattern occurs.
Think from a partner’s perspective: if
you were to have a relationship with
yourself, what would you dislike about
yourself? This would be a good start to
identify any issues you may have as
once you start to work on these areas,
you will start to attract better quality
relationships.
Avoid surrounding yourself with
angry or hurt single friends
Did you know that who you surround
yourself with is who you become? If
your friends are angry, bitter and have
loads of issues, then you most probably
will develop the same issues as them.
Or even worse, you might find that you
enjoy being entertained by negative
drama. If you were in a loving,
forgiving place, then you would most
probably let them go out of your life.
Surround yourself with positive uplifting
people who are adding value to your
life and friends who are either married
or in a solid relationship, as these are
the ones you should talk to and
emulate.
Have realistic expectations
Does your ideal type of partner really
exist? Do any of your friends have this
type of partner and what type of
person must you be in order to attract
this type of person?
For example, if you are searching for a
quiet homebody who loves to stay
home and cook dinner on the
weekends, then someone who has a
high profile public career wouldn’t be a
good choice.
Try to look for someone who reflects
your own compatibilities, values and
beliefs. If you have been single for a
long while and your expectations are
high, them maybe you need to review
your list of expectations.
Write down ALL the qualities you are
looking for in a partner. Which qualities
are most important to you? Are there
any qualities that are negotiable, or
not? What can you not live without?
Do more to get people interested in
you
Whether you are a professional, single
parent or a devoted Christian, there is
so much more you can do each day to
attract the right type of partner into
your life. Go on as many dates as
possible (the Americans do this well –
serial dating).
In order to get these dates you need to
make time to find and attract the right
partner. How much effort have you
given yourself in the last three months?
If the answer is, “not a lot,” then you
need to decide to change by taking
proactive action to make yourself
available and approachable offline and
online.
Remember that you are competing
with other singles that want the same
type of partner, so taking action will
put you ahead of them.
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